Category Archives: Parenting

Why do we praise?

Why do we praise? When it comes to praising our PDAers it can be a difficult job, it’s not as straightforward as saying something nice and them accepting the nice words. Many PDAers dislike praise, to the point where they will lash out when praised. This makes it hard to build up their self-esteem as …

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PDA parenting is just too hard

I know what I’m supposed to do, I know why I’m supposed to do it, I know it’s easier and better on everyone, but it’s just too hard. I’m not a weak person, at least that’s what people keep telling me. I’m quite stubborn and the type of person who will continue doing something no …

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The Parenting Demand

The demands of parenting can be hard for all parents. Having to look after little people all day and night for years on end, sometimes with few breaks, whilst dealing with all the emotions, frustrations, developments and changes that go along with them, can be tiring. For PDA adults, looking after PDA children, parenting can …

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Silly behaviour?

We had a meeting at Polar Bear’s school today to discuss his recent diagnosis. The educational psychologist (EP) was there, without a doubt the best person to have when going through the diagnosis process, our EP was fab. The deputy head (senco) was there along with the lady from CAHMS who diagnosed Polar Bear, another …

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Update

It’s been a long year, a lot of things have been happening. Polar Bear has been doing great at school, especially this term. He’s been going swimming at the weekend too which, although it tires him out, has helped him grow his confidence and has a calming effect. We finally received a diagnosis for him …

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Avoidance =compliance

Avoidance = compliance…no, really, it does. Well, it’s worked for me. Although this was neither deliberate nor known at the time. You see, I find this whole parenting rather difficult sometimes, and I’m human, and PDA, so yeah…I avoid parenting. I try my best, honestly I do, but it seems that sometimes doing tasks for …

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I can’t defend my kids

I’ve seen the stories, some stranger makes a rude comment about a person’s child behaving in a way they don’t like only for the parent to turn around and give them a piece of their mind. ‘My child is Autistic, he can’t help it’ ‘He’s disabled’ ‘She has sensory processing disorder, she’s overwhelmed by the …

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Jacket potatoes and pork

When Polar Bear was three, maybe four, the very words jacket potato or pork would send him into a meltdown. He could meltdown quite badly when given a demand he couldn’t meet but they were nothing compared to the food meltdowns. It got to the point that I couldn’t have even normal potatoes in the …

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Accepting half-compliance

Monkey has started the half-compliance. It’s where you give the child a demand and they sort of do the demand whilst retaining control themselves. If you tell Monkey to sit on the chair he will sit on the floor. If you tell him he can have one sweet he will say ‘two sweets’ in his …

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