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What does and doesn’t work for Polar Bear

In this blog post I share what parenting strategies do and do not work for my eldest son; Polar Bear (currently 12). In the previous blog post I explored what things impact my parenting strategies, you can read this┬áHere What does work As I mentioned in the previous post, logic and facts work best. If …

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Different strategies for different kids

The boys are currently 12 (Polar Bear), 5 (Monkey) and nearly 3 (Ton). As they grow it appears they are more and more different from one another, and as such, they require very different parenting strategies. The basis for my parenting is PDA strategies, but even these need to be adapted for each individual child. …

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PDA parenting is just too hard

I know what I’m supposed to do, I know why I’m supposed to do it, I know it’s easier and better on everyone, but it’s just too hard. I’m not a weak person, at least that’s what people keep telling me. I’m quite stubborn and the type of person who will continue doing something no …

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The Parenting Demand

The demands of parenting can be hard for all parents. Having to look after little people all day and night for years on end, sometimes with few breaks, whilst dealing with all the emotions, frustrations, developments and changes that go along with them, can be tiring. For PDA adults, looking after PDA children, parenting can …

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Jacket potatoes and pork

When Polar Bear was three, maybe four, the very words jacket potato or pork would send him into a meltdown. He could meltdown quite badly when given a demand he couldn’t meet but they were nothing compared to the food meltdowns. It got to the point that I couldn’t have even normal potatoes in the …

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Accepting half-compliance

Monkey has started the half-compliance. It’s where you give the child a demand and they sort of do the demand whilst retaining control themselves. If you tell Monkey to sit on the chair he will sit on the floor. If you tell him he can have one sweet he will say ‘two sweets’ in his …

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Blame it on the Queen.

“The Queen said you have to go to school” yes, I’ve used this line, many times. It works too. So does saying “The Government says everyone has to eat dinner” and “The doctor told me you have to get dressed”. For PDA kids, instructions/requests/orders/demands are all difficult to take. The child feels like they have …

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