Tag Archives: PDA

What does and doesn’t work for Polar Bear

In this blog post I share what parenting strategies do and do not work for my eldest son; Polar Bear (currently 12). In the previous blog post I explored what things impact my parenting strategies, you can read this┬áHere What does work As I mentioned in the previous post, logic and facts work best. If …

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Different strategies for different kids

The boys are currently 12 (Polar Bear), 5 (Monkey) and nearly 3 (Ton). As they grow it appears they are more and more different from one another, and as such, they require very different parenting strategies. The basis for my parenting is PDA strategies, but even these need to be adapted for each individual child. …

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Day 2 – 10 things you didn’t know about PDA

Day 2 – 10 things you didn’t know about Pathological Demand Avoidance   Well, being pedantic, I don’t actually know what you, the reader, know about Pathological Demand Avoidance. You could be brand new to the condition so know next to nothing about it, or you could be a PDA veteran and already know everything …

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PDA parenting is just too hard

I know what I’m supposed to do, I know why I’m supposed to do it, I know it’s easier and better on everyone, but it’s just too hard. I’m not a weak person, at least that’s what people keep telling me. I’m quite stubborn and the type of person who will continue doing something no …

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The Parenting Demand

The demands of parenting can be hard for all parents. Having to look after little people all day and night for years on end, sometimes with few breaks, whilst dealing with all the emotions, frustrations, developments and changes that go along with them, can be tiring. For PDA adults, looking after PDA children, parenting can …

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Silly behaviour?

We had a meeting at Polar Bear’s school today to discuss his recent diagnosis. The educational psychologist (EP) was there, without a doubt the best person to have when going through the diagnosis process, our EP was fab. The deputy head (senco) was there along with the lady from CAHMS who diagnosed Polar Bear, another …

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Update

It’s been a long year, a lot of things have been happening. Polar Bear has been doing great at school, especially this term. He’s been going swimming at the weekend too which, although it tires him out, has helped him grow his confidence and has a calming effect. We finally received a diagnosis for him …

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Avoidance =compliance

Avoidance = compliance…no, really, it does. Well, it’s worked for me. Although this was neither deliberate nor known at the time. You see, I find this whole parenting rather difficult sometimes, and I’m human, and PDA, so yeah…I avoid parenting. I try my best, honestly I do, but it seems that sometimes doing tasks for …

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Accepting half-compliance

Monkey has started the half-compliance. It’s where you give the child a demand and they sort of do the demand whilst retaining control themselves. If you tell Monkey to sit on the chair he will sit on the floor. If you tell him he can have one sweet he will say ‘two sweets’ in his …

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